A Loyal Friend – Part II

This is the second part of my blog about “Loyalty”.

The truth is, gossip is so easy to slip into. We all fail in this area at times, I’m afraid. And the hard truth is, as we spend time together in certain social circles, we become intimately aware of each others weaknesses and failures. If you don’t believe this is the natural course of friendships in the world, just watch the next entry of “Desperate Housewives”.

I think the problem comes when we stop seeking to speak the best about the absent member of the group, clique, or church, and begin to enjoy the meaty morsels of the latest “dirty laundry” instead of praying for that person or people.


Some groups require that you gossip in order to continue being part of them. They will cease inviting you if you are not a partaker. Guess what, whoever is absent is probably going to be one of the topics of discussion.

Some people feel empowered by tearing down others. I must confess… I think such people are arrogant bullies that need to be taught a lesson on respect.

Have you betrayed a friend lately? Why not make it right, and at the least, change the subject next time the gossip crew gets things going.

Think about it.

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A Loyal Friend

Let’s be honest – loyalty isn’t exactly considered to be the unpardonable
sin in 21st century America. It would seem that people value and promote
occasional calculated acts of disloyalty as needed for, say… a job
promotion, a romantic interest, getting an “in” with a higher social group –
even in the church community.

There seems to be a disconnect in the minds of many “Christians” who claim
to love God and yet wouldn’t think twice about betraying a close friend.
Disloyalty is even considered a “moral” in and of itself – if it leads to a
so-called “greater good.”

It seems way too easy to betray another person. All you have to do is open
your mouth and talk. Proverbs 16:28 says, “A perverse man stirs up dissension,
and a gossip separates close friends.”

The Bible clearly condemns stirring up dissension through gossip or any other
means. The fact is, Proverbs says anyone who would do this is a perverse

Truth be told, it is hard not to betray others. It’s easy to be disloyal. It
takes effort to remain loyal – especially when you may have a good excuse for
not remaining loyal. We have all been guilty of hanging with close friends
and then suddenly finding ourselves running the gossip train all night long.
It feels good, it makes us happy about ourselves, and let’s face it, talking
about others can be hilarious – in the “right” company.

A great friend sees you at your worst, and still thinks the best of you.  If
we look down on someone for whatever reason, we have just entered the
hypocrite zone – a place we dare not enter, and a place once entered that is
nearly impossible to ever leave without a serious reality check and a deep
work of spiritual contrition.

Next blog entry – I will continue with A LOYAL FRIEND –  PART II